New teachers are often swamped with urgent-yet-conflicting advice, even the best of which has exceptions they’ll learn the hard way. Sound familiar? That’s because in many ways, parents are now rookie teachers. And they’re getting much of the same advice. This advice tends to fall into two conflicting camps, each with their own promises and pitfalls, and many an early-career educator has steered too hard in one of these directions. Here’s a review of both camps, plus tips for correcting course if you need to.
The worst day of my first year of teaching happened near the end of October. I didn’t know this at the time, but I was right on schedule. About two months into their careers, new teachers hit the dreaded time-frame known as “the disillusionment phase.” This is a time when teachers are exhausted, caught in a self-woven web of early missteps, and especially prone to thinking that their mistakes will ruin kids’ lives forever. Which is why it seems like a good time to share a bit of perspective gained after 11 years of (mostly) successful teaching and over a decade of coaching other teachers through the hardest parts of their first year.
How home-schooling parents can avoid exhausting their emotional energy too early — and in the wrong places
You know, you know: You’re doing it for the kids. Unfortunately, knowing that isn’t the same as being well-equipped for the moment when one of those kids spills juice on their distance-learning worksheets for the second time! In one hour! Just the opposite, in fact. One thing I learned the hard way as a teacher is that, like time and energy, our best moods are limited resources. Start the day with an emotional rubber band already stretched to its breaking point, and you’re likely to snap by three o’clock. Which leads to you beat yourself up because, even “for the kids,” you couldn’t rise to the challenge. Which doesn’t help with the rubber band problem. With that experience in mind, here are a few lessons to help parents make it to the end of the “school day” with their sanity intact.
It’s been a long few months of distance learning, and many parents are probably counting the days until June. Soon the mandatory lessons from school will stop. No longer will you find yourself locked in a family-wide round of Zoom-scheduling Twister or valiantly keeping up with assignments across multiple educational apps. When summer arrives, you’ll be blissfully, breathlessly on your own. But also terrifyingly on your own. And you’re going to need a plan. Here are teacher-style planning tips to help parents prepare for this long, hot pandemic summer.